She was that girl-rebellious, precocious, and macking for love. In 1982, Erika Schickel was expelled from her East Coast prep school for sleeping with a teacher. I have been selfish and ruled by my desires … in other words, I have conducted myself like a man, despite being a mother, and hence have perhaps forfeited my claim on female rage.This complex memoir shows what it was like growing up in the shadow of a literary father and a neglectful mother, getting thrown out of boarding school after being seduced by a teacher, and all of the later-life consequences that ensue. Rather, I have cheated, I have lied, I have done damage. As women are finally rising up en masse to denounce their widespread treatment by men, I am left naked, with no pristine red robe of Victimhood. “It might be fair to say that this is the moment I’ve been waiting for since the sixth grade.” Problem is, in middle age, Frangello feels she may have missed the boat. She begins by placing herself and her story into a sociological context, hoping, one can only assume, to enlarge it by association: “You may have noticed that anger is making a comeback for women,” she writes early on. She does this in increasingly dizzying recursive loops, arriving again and again at the same descriptions, questions and conclusions, without ever deepening her inquiry. Ostensibly the story of a destructive love affair that upends her marriage, her family and her life, “Blow Your House Down” posits itself as a feminist manifesto, and its author veers between the two poles that are the greatest no-nos in writing about the self: revenge and justification bordering on self-congratulation. After all, as Vivian Gornick once wrote, “What happened to the writer is not what matters what matters is the large sense that the writer is able to make of what happened.” But that’s me falling into that same critical trap. The last thing I felt like doing was piling on to her mountain of woes. She faces physical pain, suffers the loss of her best friend, is caretaker to her elderly parents and, toward the end of the book, faces a cancer diagnosis herself. To be sure, Frangello has had a rough life: a childhood marked by violence and poverty, an adulthood spent trying alternately to repair or outrun that childhood. I tried to wriggle out of this review, because I found myself judging Frangello harshly, scribbling notes like OMG and stop and no!! in the margins. I’m not sure I’ve ever read, much less reviewed, a memoir that has gotten under my skin the way this one has. Gina Frangello seems to know this and in “Blow Your House Down,” her uneven, provocative book, tries to inoculate herself against such a response. All too often, it’s the life that is judged and reviewed, not the literary merits of the work. But it is in criticism of memoir that the greatest disservice to the art form (and it is an art form) is done. To be clear, memoir - good memoir - is not a public striptease. You must feel so exposed,” as if there is a subcategory of writer who is too damaged or deranged to be aware that she’s performed a public striptease. I can’t tell you how many times I have been told some version of “I don’t know how you do it. Add to this that readers may approach the genre with skepticism or a whiff of schadenfreude. The urge to excavate memory does not tend to come from a place of contentment.
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